Easy ignore (LI) and total ignore (TI). Is it true that ignoring is the best revenge? Instructions for management: how to attract attention with the help of ignoring and why it is even needed

Every person has a certain amount of egoism. When trying to please someone, we all expect a positive reaction. Such mutual exchange becomes a habit and makes people dependent on other people’s emotions, feelings, and experiences. Discord in love/work/friendship relationships traditionally occurs with scandals. Any quarrel is a kind of giveaway game, where everyone is playing to provoke the opponent, thereby showing their weaknesses, but at the same time trying to win. Such tactics usually lead to nervous exhaustion, constant worry and loss of self-esteem. An excellent technique will help you save all this - ignoring it.

Demonstrative contempt

Proven in relationships - keep a person at a distance. If this is a man, he will definitely react to the woman’s ostentatious coldness and try to win her; if he is an envious colleague, by completely ignoring him, he can be misled and forced to slow down the rivalry. By being cold towards you, you show him your superiority. When the response to an ill-wisher’s provocation is complete ignorance, his ability to manipulate you disappears. This technique was used by medieval kings and politicians, because previously all relationships were built solely on trust.

Information hunger

If you are going to fight a cold war using ignorance, it is important to stick to your chosen tactics. It’s not for nothing that there are intelligence officers in all defense units of the world. Don’t tell your enemy about your plans, don’t frighten him with threats, and don’t let people close to him get close to you. Due to the sudden information lull, the opponent himself will begin to look for ways to get closer to you (unless, of course, he does not support your “game”). Ignoring is a great way to take revenge on an emotional person. If your offender is one of these, feel free to use it, observing the victim’s experiences from the outside.

Death to relationships

Close people react the most to being ignored. Don’t try to point out to your loved one his mistakes in this way, because it won’t work. But this method can lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship. In love affairs, ignoring will be a real blow to the partner’s feelings, because he will be deprived of the coveted attention of the person he likes. In relation to loved ones, this method of revenge is more cruel than an open statement of hostility. By using ignorance, you become independent of other people's opinions, and therefore invulnerable. However, we must remember that such isolation can lead to temporary loneliness, so this technique can only be used in cases of extreme necessity.

Easy ignore (LI) and total ignore (TI)

Very often we have to advise total ignore (TI), and this is the only correct advice in this situation. This is a situation when a person was openly, directly rejected, rejected, insulted, offended, cheated on, preferred over someone else, told that they did not love him and abandoned him.

In these cases, there is no way to get off with an easy ignore. This is a very serious, very strong imbalance and it can only be reversed by a real shake-up, only by serious and drastic actions, by a complete reboot.

Easy ignore (LI) is suitable in cases where the partner has cooled down a little, but does not say anything about it, even denies or somehow justifies his coldness - tired at work, problems in the family, etc. Then it is appropriate to lag behind the person a little, give him some air, freedom, not call or write, not take initiative, but still not break off the relationship and positively reinforce his initiative.

Those. if a girl refuses to meet because she is tired, is going to visit relatives, her mother has arrived, the cat is giving birth, etc., you can turn on easy ignore. And if she said that she wants to end the relationship because she wants to understand herself, because she has no feelings, because she fell in love with someone else or her betrayal was revealed, then total ignore is needed. It’s not a fact that it will help, of course. But anything else will make the situation worse. Much worse.

TI lasts until mega B. They often ask how to understand that this is mega B, that you can stop ignoring them and get in touch. To do this, the partner’s move, that very mega closer, must completely neutralize the offense for which he was sent to TI. Those. if this is betrayal - complete repentance, declaration of love, access to a telephone, i.e. a person must ask for forgiveness and show and prove his devotion in every possible way so that they will believe him again.

This seems fantastic to many, especially those who are happy with a simple “hello” from someone who abandoned them. And it’s really unlikely that a person for whom your importance has dropped enough to commit infidelity or any of the above would suddenly love you so much again. This doesn't happen suddenly. In order for this to happen, total disregard and serious personality development are needed. But even if this does not happen, ignoring will still remain the best decision, because there is no point in returning or staying in a relationship where your value is so low.

The degree of proximity should always be directly proportional to the significance. If importance has fallen, then the degree of intimacy should decrease in proportion to the decrease in your importance. Yours, not your partner. Your partner can, and probably will, remain very significant to you, but you must reduce the degree of intimacy with him immediately and exactly as much as your importance has fallen. But not as much as you want. It is clear that you want to communicate with a significant partner and remain close, regardless of what he says or does. I want to clutch at every straw, respond to every ping, look for reasons to meet, send and take things endlessly and make friends. But this will completely ruin the chances of a return, because with such actions it will be absolutely impossible to increase your importance. If a person agrees to less, he will never be offered more. If you don’t agree, maybe they won’t offer you either, but at least there’s a chance. And in the first case there is no chance. Agreeing to intimacy when there is an imbalance completely takes away the chance for a balanced relationship.

How total should the TI be?

It should be total in the love and intimate area, and in no way concern all other aspects of existence - finances, work, common property, children, etc.

Those. You cannot ignore messages about the joint mortgage, your debts or the health of your common children; you need to quickly resolve all financial matters related to this person and not enter into new ones. And completely ignore everything that is not connected with this.

Hello to all those who like to pick their brains! No, I’m not talking about surgeons and pathologists, I’m talking about those who are impressed by psychology, those whom you don’t feed with bread - let them study such a complex phenomenon as a person.

Today I will touch on a slightly rare, but not at all boring topic - ignoring individuals of their own kind. We will figure out why the ignore - The best way tie a person to you. Let’s also think about why this “method of attracting attention” is so effective.

Where do the legs grow from or why does ignoring work in the opposite direction?

Surely, many of you have heard that by ignoring a person, you can attract his attention. But the question immediately arises: “Is this even legal?” How it works?

Human nature is such that we are all selfish creatures! And this is an established fact, even the most altruistic people are not able to argue with the laws of nature that work at the conscious and subconscious levels.

If we are still able to control our consciousness, then, alas, we cannot control our subconscious.

“Why ignore a person to attract attention,” you ask. On the contrary, you can try to “show yourself” in all your glory!

But the reality is that the person who is being ignored is, in most cases, capable of feeling rejected.

And then Her Majesty “Narcissism” comes onto the stage. Coupled with egoism, this produces a nuclear mixture, encouraging a person to prove his worth and importance.

This is where it begins... The attention of the ignored person to the ignorer increases quite significantly. In fact, this works precisely because the ignored person wants to prove his importance, first of all, to himself - that he is needed, that he is noticed.

Therefore, we can say that such a “seduction scheme” works solely from the selfish motives of the potential victim. And considering that a person initially has a code in his subconscious to love himself, which encourages him to increase the level of his own self-sufficiency, this method works for most people.

However, it is worth considering that this method is not Magic wand and it does not guarantee 100% success in attracting attention. It works under certain conditions, which I propose to get acquainted with right now.

Instructions for management: how to attract attention to yourself using ignoring and why is it even needed?

To begin with, it is advisable to decide for what purpose you want to attract the attention of a certain person: to stroke your ego, play with other people’s feelings, or gain their favor. Everyone has their own preferences, but this law of psychology works the same for everyone.

First, don't ignore the person whose attention you want to attract from the very beginning. First, show him that he is important to you. Otherwise, you risk scaring him off with your indifference.

After you have made it clear to him that you like him, start acting.

But don’t try to flirt and shower this person with your cold attitude towards him. It is best to be polite to him: when rescheduling the meeting, tell him about it gently and express your disappointment about such force majeure.

Secondly, don’t delay ignoring! Otherwise, you will get the corresponding result - the person will lose interest in you and become cold.

You should ignore it only for a short time in order to attract attention, after which you need to act, and not continue to dynamize your potential passion (this is especially true for men, although a priori they will not act in this way).

By the way, it’s worth making a small reservation that this technique does not work for all people, because some of them have a low degree. Namely, it forces a person to prove his importance.

Therefore, it will be difficult to attract the attention of a person who is absolutely violet by ignoring him, what others think about him and whether they even pay attention to him.

Nevertheless, this method of “seduction” should not be written off. I'm also interested in hearing your opinions and stories regarding this topic. With this, I don’t say goodbye to you, but say: “See you soon!”

Always me - Sasha Bogdanova