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Many parents believe that once they send their child to school, they can calmly go about their business—the teachers will teach them everything. Is it really? Is a school graduate prepared for adult life in all its manifestations and aspects?

Yes, the school curriculum is aimed at ensuring that the student is literate and educated. He is given a certain amount of knowledge, but life is much more than that. A graduate, having received a certificate, stands confused in front of the huge world of adult life that has opened its arms. Like Ilya Muromets at the crossroads. Where to go, what to do and how?

What doesn't school teach?

Unfortunately, the knowledge gained at school does not intersect in any way with everyday life. A child lives, as it were, in two worlds: in school, where he is persistently taught something for some reason, and in ordinary real life. They run parallel. Why? Is it what they study in mathematics, physics, chemistry, geography, etc. It is impossible to tie it to the world around the child, so that it is interesting and exciting for him to learn, so that he understands that knowledge is really important and necessary.

Children do not know how to formulate and express their opinions, make a report, or defend a project. The child cannot construct complex sentences, only very short ones. There are many subjects at school that require oral and written presentation of the material studied or one’s thoughts, but it is impossible to tell them in your own words, at best by heart. Because then you don’t have to think: you memorize it, tell it in class and then conveniently forget it. Unfortunately, the homework is set in such a way that you can complete it simply by memorizing it. And if, for example, when asking the next paragraph, they posed a problematic question, the answer to which can only be deeply thought through the material, and even the correct answer is possible not just one, but several - then the child would really become interested in the subject, his eyes would sparkle with curiosity.

Schoolchildren are not taught to manage their time rationally. Therefore, hours free from lessons, clubs, sections, courses are wasted in vain - invaluable time flies away into nowhere, and every day. As a result, things are not done, the material is not learned, problems are not solved. And the child is tired and nervous. And why? Doesn't know how to manage time. Teaching planning should be a school's first priority. As well as being able to think logically, see patterns and establish connections between phenomena. This is the foundation, the foundation for successful mastery and understanding of the school curriculum. Unfortunately, the graduate enters adult life with this inability.

How to rest properly? This often means doing nothing, sitting on the Internet or in front of the TV. The result is excessive fatigue. Why is there no systematic training in proper, quality rest?

It is very important to have basic medical knowledge. But no attention is paid to this at all. But such knowledge, skills and abilities are vital at any age.

Children are legally illiterate, do not know their duties and rights, and the law.

They don’t teach you at school how to communicate, compromise, get out of a conflict situation, or come to an agreement. This child is taught by life, not by highly qualified teachers. How to find friends? How to build your own strong family? How to be good parents? These are important steps in life, and you need to know the basics of building family relationships and the ability not to lose friendship. Where will they teach this, especially if the child lives in a dysfunctional family?

They are not taught to set life goals or determine priorities. Why does a child study, go to school, and attend various additional classes? Ask. If the child answers honestly, and not as expected, you will hear: “That’s how it’s supposed to be. Everyone is in at least 9th grade,” “I try to study well so as not to listen to the boring lectures of my parents,” etc. The ability to set goals and achieve them determines the entire future life of a young person. It will be interesting, energetic, rich, colorful or dull, uninitiative, sluggish, filled with complaints and grievances.

They don’t teach kids how to use money wisely. Where do they come from in the family, what expense items are required monthly, every six months, every year? Do I need to keep cash records? Schoolchildren would love to learn this.

Since much remains outside the school curriculum, caring parents must teach the child all this themselves. Then he will grow up proactive, confident, and will boldly make thoughtful decisions and be responsible for them. Is not it?

All children born in the Soviet Union remember how their parents told them in childhood that to succeed in life you need to study well, listen to teachers and not stand out from the crowd. But practice shows that grades in a certificate do not in any way affect well-being in life. Former poor students often manage large companies and have businesses, while excellent students receive salaries of 300-500 dollars (at best) for many years. This article will talk about what they don't teach in school, life skills that are much more important than quadratic equations.

Bring things started to their logical conclusion

Most schoolchildren completely lack this skill. They can start doing something, then quit and start another activity. This is observed everywhere and in later life they follow this principle. I started a new project, but didn’t finish it in the required time frame, decided to lose weight, worked out for a week and that’s it, I gave up. You need to understand a simple truth: you can’t start a new business until you’ve finished with the old one. There is even such a saying in the Russian language: “If you chase two hares, you won’t catch either.”

Solve life problems

This is another essential life skill that is not taught in school. You need to start nurturing it in your child from childhood, giving him the opportunity to solve small problems on his own - get a doctor’s certificate at a consultation, sign up for a class, talk to a teacher, start shopping in a store, etc. As the child grows up, he will become more and more, the level of problems will increase and he will understand that no one but him will solve them.

To ask questions

The more questions a person asks - to himself, family and friends, mentors, teachers and other people, the greater his horizons and the more he knows. At school, on the contrary, they teach that asking questions is tactless. If you ask the teacher something, then you did not understand the material well, did not listen attentively, etc. This is a very useful skill that should be developed from childhood, and it does not matter what others think about it. This is not taught in school, but it is extremely necessary.

Do what you love

In our society, it is customary for parents to impose their children's education and future choices in life. They try to direct their child to where there is more money, prestige and other status issues, completely forgetting to ask, what does the child himself want? As a result, they simply waste money and time on studying - many students drop out of their studies due to the fact that it does not bring them satisfaction. There is no need to insist, a person should - with something that gives him an uplift. Any hobby can be turned into a business and make money from it, and the most successful and rich people are direct proof of this.

Be mobile and independent

A person in the future must adapt to a changing situation. For example, he received one profession, but it ceased to be in demand. Mobility will allow you to easily change it to a more promising one. The situation is exactly the same in business - without a flexible policy there is absolutely nothing to do in it. Independence is generally the basis of our entire life. You should never, you should try to make decisions on your own, despite all their complexity, take responsibility and be responsible for your words.

Work with information

Nowadays, from TV screens and monitors you can receive a huge amount of different data, which varies radically. A person’s task is to learn to systematize them, to separate the wheat from the chaff. Although this does not seem difficult, in reality everything is completely different. There is a lot of information “garbage” around that should be avoided for success in life.

Financial literacy

What won't they teach you at school? The basics of financial literacy, which include the ability to save money, use banking products, manage a family budget, invest and increase funds. Although such subjects are now being introduced in schools, they still will not give a complete idea of these things that you need to start studying on your own. This can be done on our website, which offers a lot of original expert materials on.

These skills won't be taught in school, but they are essential for success later in life, so teach them to your children from an early age.

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To ask questions
Constant “why”, “what for” and “how” is the natural state of children. It is natural for them, because they understand that everything happens for a reason, for everything in this world there is a cause and effect. As they grow older, this trait, which drives parents crazy when their child is 4 years old, disappears somewhere imperceptibly. And if a child knows that his question will receive either an excuse or a rude answer (and sometimes even a bad answer, since just asking again means you weren’t listening attentively), then he stops asking questions. And this is bad, since the main engine of acquiring knowledge is questions. And the right questions can generally be half the answer.

At the university we had one math teacher. programming, who, without particularly mincing words, told us every lecture that we were a bunch of mediocrities, unable to even formulate the correct question normally, and he was wasting his precious time with us. There was always deathly silence in his classes, and no one ever had any questions. Do you think any of his students actually knew this subject?

So teach your children not to be afraid to ask questions - they have every right to do so. And we must not forget that helping to find answers to them is not only the teacher’s job, but also yours.

Solve problems
If a child learns to solve problems, he can do any job. Because completing a task is just a series of solutions to small problems. A person who can break down complex problems into simple ones and then solve them can do almost any job.

Don't rush to help at your child's first cry, whether it's the endless putting on of tights or a math problem. Of course, it is much easier and faster to solve a problem for a child and continue to do your own thing than to sit and explain every action (this can last for hours). As a result, the child will get used to the fact that any problem can be solved for him either by a parent (that is, you) or someone else. And this does not go away with age.

Finish what you started
Any action you take can be a small project. Drawing up a report, developing technical specifications, preparing illustrations - all this is a small project that needs to not only be started, but also brought to mind and completed. Explain to your child that if he takes on something, he must finish it. Allow him to watch you work, and over time, the child will begin to make his own projects, whether it's making a card for the holiday, or planning to learn the multiplication tables before the New Year.

Find your life's work
If you ask graduating students what they want to do, you will get very sad answers. Most go to school because their parents said (decided) so. Very rarely does a child understand what he really likes (and not what is now fashionable, prestigious and profitable), and goes in order to “get a higher education... like everyone else.” Here I immediately remember “without a piece of paper you are...”.
But, in my opinion, this is the mindset of an employee of a government agency or budgetary institution, whose whole life is tied to these pieces of paper. And no matter how excellent a specialist and hard worker you are, you will not be promoted without a diploma. I am in no way saying that higher education is not necessary. It’s just that education imposed by parents, or “whatever, as long as it’s higher” usually goes to waste along with the money and time invested in it.

If a child likes to do something, he will be able to turn any “non-prestigious” activity into something truly worthwhile. Not to mention self-realization and a feeling of harmony with oneself and the outside world.

Compassion
It’s all very simple - if you don’t teach your child to be compassionate, you will grow up to be selfish, cruel and completely self-centered. Such a person will not be able to build a family, or find friends, or understand what his passion is. No one will want to help such a person either with deeds or even with simple advice. It is very important to teach a child compassion, to give him an understanding that sometimes giving gifts is much nicer than receiving, and by helping other people unselfishly you can get much more in return.

Without understanding that by making other people happy, we ourselves become at least a little better and happier, a person will not be able to live a full life.

“We ourselves feel that everything we do is a drop in the ocean. But the ocean will be smaller without this drop.”
Mother Teresa

Tolerance
We are all different, each with our own priorities and values. You cannot understand another person if you cannot see the world through their eyes. Boundaries have been erased and your child will not be able to interact normally in the world if, at the sight of a person of a different race, religion, social status or with any physical disabilities, he falls into a stupor.

You need to let your child know that it’s okay to be different. We are all different, each of us has our own views on everything and in order to interact, we must learn to understand each other.

The ability to enjoy solitude
From birth, the child is adored by his parents, and we coddle with him, surround him with care and attention and give him our full time. When a child grows up a little, we are already an integral part of his feeling of happiness. When we are not around, he begins to feel sad and bored. He doesn’t understand what it’s like to be happy alone with himself. For happiness and fun, he always needs company - friends, and then family. If he does not find either one or the other, he can grow into other things that do not allow him to get bored and do not allow him to feel loneliness (shopping, food addiction, Internet addiction, etc.). A child must learn to be alone with himself, play, find interesting activities, think and at the same time feel happy and in no way alone!

At least occasionally, arrange evenings when the child is left to his own devices - this way everyone in the family will have a small piece of personal time.

Independence
I consider independence one of the main skills. If you are independent, then you can make decisions based solely on your thoughts and reasons. No one can tell you what to do or prohibit something. You can understand this yourself and choose the right solution. Allow your child to insist on his own, make independent decisions and learn from his mistakes (within reasonable limits, of course).

Only a free person can be happy.

Ability to adapt to changes
The world has never been static, it has always moved. It just didn't happen so quickly before. Now he is rushing at great speed. Nothing is permanent - everything changes. And the ability to adapt to changes, to see at least one step ahead can be a key skill.

Now, when choosing an education for yourself, you cannot be 100% sure that by the time you graduate from university you will not find yourself far behind the rest of the planet and the skills you acquire will be applicable to reality. You need to be able to be flexible and constantly keep your finger on the pulse. Don't be afraid of changes and be ready for them. And... study, study and study again. Learn everything new, learn from your children, read a lot and don’t be afraid to start something new at any age.

And from myself.

The ability to find the necessary information and filter it. This is what we had real problems with at school. I only learned to identify the main points among a huge flow of information at the institute, and at first the lack of this skill made my life much more difficult.

Objective assessment of knowledge. Knowledge assessment in our system is lame and the quality of knowledge obtained is rarely checked. Teachers rarely check whether the information has been learned or whether the student has simply memorized the lesson. In our class there were quite a lot of good and bad students who, having dug a little deeper, could easily fail these poor students. But the teachers didn’t really care about this - they just served their working hours for show. The only sane person was our history and law teacher. It was she who taught us to ask the right questions and look for answers, even if they were given an expert opinion.

Finally, get rid of the herd mentality. Sometimes it seems to me that over the 69 years of the Soviet Union (from December 1922 to December 1991), the skill of not standing out and being a gray mass was fixed at the genetic level. Remain unnoticed, be like everyone else, be gray, don’t stand out! Your “I” means nothing. The main thing is not to break away from the team.

At a certain age, a child has a completely natural desire to be like someone. But over time he grows up and this goes away. But, unfortunately, not for everyone. Doing something just because everyone else is doing it is terribly stupid. Options “My employee’s children have already bought a car, built a house and planted a tree! But you don’t do anything at all and it’s unclear what you’re doing!”, “You need to go to work! And you’re sitting at home or wandering around meetings with incomprehensible people! Is this work? What will I tell people if they ask? meet very often. You are lucky if you did not hear reproaches from your parents in these phrases.

It's terrible to constantly look over your shoulder at someone. It turns out that you do not live your life, but the life of the team. Yes, certain social norms must be observed (you live in a society, not in a dense forest), but completely adapting your life to the rhythm of the crowd is stupid!

I don’t want to hope that my child will be lucky and have a teacher for whom the quality of knowledge is really important, and not a good grade for an expensive gift on March 8th and good behavior. And I will try to do everything so that he grows up inquisitive and smart, understanding that doors do not open on their own - you need to knock on them. That miracles do not happen on their own and you can wait for the right opportunity all your life. You must not be afraid to start something new and always be open to dialogue with the world. And he always has something to tell us 😉

– selfishness, cruelty and self-obsession. A person who does not know compassion is unable to build harmonious relationships with others, and this leads to problems in the family and difficulties in communicating with others. They are unlikely to want to help such a person.

A child who knows how to compassion understands that giving can be more pleasant than receiving, and helping others unselfishly is healthy for both parties. Making others happy means making yourself a little better. This is a very important part of life.

Be tolerant

People differ in their value systems, priorities, needs, and views. Understanding this, a person adequately interacts with people of other views, values, races, faiths, social status, and capabilities.

Explain to your child that it is okay to be different. It is important to try to understand and respect each other.

Enjoy being alone

The grown-up child must be shown that being alone is also a pleasure. Let him play alone, knowing that you are nearby. Watch, but don’t interfere with his play: “It’s important to me that you learn to play on your own.” If your child is able to get carried away by the activity, note that you are pleased with his independence. Teaching your child to be happy alone is important! He must be able to occupy himself and overcome boredom, reflect, without feeling abandoned by everyone.

Try to arrange evenings when the child - everyone should have personal time.

To be independent

The most important skill of an adult personality. An independent person is able to make decisions and choices, bearing responsibility for them, since he relies only on his own thoughts, reasons, and needs. No one should indicate or prohibit, unless it is a violation of the law.

How to develop this skill? Give your child the opportunity to insist on his own and justify his small decisions, act independently, and learn from his mistakes. This can concern many areas of life, and, of course, you can trust the reins of power only if the consequences of a possible wrong choice are not fatal.

Be adaptive

The world is dynamic - it changes at high speed. Nothing is permanent, and the ability to adapt to changing circumstances and assess the future is a key skill of a successful person. To be flexible, keep your finger on the pulse, not be afraid of new things, always learn - all this is very, very important. It is necessary to start something new, change your point of view, and use modern opportunities at any age.

Set the right example for your children, and the results will not take long to arrive.

Find the information you need and filter it

The skill of searching for new information, as well as critical perception of it, is the key to effective learning. It is important to teach a child to isolate the main thing from the whole stream, because now, in the era of information noise, absorbing everything that comes from the outside is very harmful.

Allows you to question new information, which means checking its reliability and absorbing only useful knowledge. Objective assessment makes it possible to avoid cramming and improves the quality of knowledge, assimilation and understanding.

Develop individuality

The so-called herd feeling is inherent to one degree or another in most adolescents: at a certain stage of development, they are looking for their place in the team and feel the need to be involved in the group.

However, it is important to stand out even when you want to be like someone. As you grow older, this quality will develop, which means that an adult will not look back at anyone and live a life that is not his own.

Parents bear responsibility for their children, and vital knowledge and skills are instilled by personal example, allowing the child to apply this knowledge himself over time.

Margarita Prokopets

Remember the song “What They Teach at School”?

Good books to love and be educated

They teach at school, they teach at school, they teach at school.

But our new author will tell you what they don’t teach at school and what to do about it!

It may be so, but there is one skill, super-important, as it turns out, in life, which is not only not taught at school, but rather actively unlearned. And he is the root of so many victories, and when he withers, then of many disasters.

I lost the record of the source of this quote: “We spend the first five years of a child’s life for him to learn to walk and talk. For the next ten, he should sit and be silent.” [translation from English author].

This is how our education system is built. Adults, I think with the best intentions, have compiled a list of what is important for a young member of society to learn, and insist that he master this list.

The unfortunate result of this approach is that we discourage him from self-direction. My son at school (in an ordinary, not at all bad, school) learned to recognize what he doesn’t want: sitting through boring lessons, listening to about the incomprehensible-why-he-needs - which in his world means unnecessary - list of dates from the 16th century. And so on. And he learned to disconnect from the outside world, busy with something incomprehensible for no apparent reason, from the world around him, which imposes information on him without bothering to explain why it is needed.

I want change or the line of least resistance

Fortunately, my school childhood managed to teach me “to love good books.” Book by Robert Fritz “The line of least resistance” (Robert Fritz “The path of least resistance”) came into my hands just a few years ago. His phrase that information not tied to a specific task is meaningless and is automatically filtered out by the brain pierced me with childhood memories. But I was a “curious sponge” who was interested in everything. Even if I have vivid memories of rejection from being stuffed with information “about nothing,” then what must it be like for boys, who are characterized by a much more intense filtering of what is important or unimportant. And inventing a problem to demonstrate the application of information does not help much.

Fritz described the situation as follows: you have a lot of “tools” (skills, information) that you know how to use, but which you have no use for, that is, consider them code-named “junk.” And I traced the consequences - you do not know how and are not accustomed to starting from the task at hand and finding, or even inventing, tools that can accomplish it. When faced with such a task, you are highly likely to experience a feeling of powerlessness, stress, even anger, as well as the urge to bury your head in the sand: “We didn’t go through this, we weren’t asked this.”

Repeat this cycle enough times, and any “failed” (=new, unfamiliar) task will be unpleasant for you. It will be tempting for you to use your intellectual abilities to avoid it, explaining why you shouldn’t do this. The easiest way to do this is by denying any of your interests, except those on which the button is already stuck.

And here the youngsters are also given the heat: who do you want to grow up to be, what do you want to do in the future? Head in the sand and play the song:

Tili-tili trawl-wali

We didn't go through this

We were not asked this

This direction of development of young brains suits computer game companies, maybe even many other companies, but not me. By the way, these companies only need such users, and they probably look for employees from those who managed to avoid this fate - otherwise, what are they good for? We answer: to follow instructions, but not to choose a route laid out independently.

What is education

Once, when asked by a teenage granddaughter what the word “education” meant, my grandfather translated it into Latin = “education”, the root of which he called the ancient Greek word “educe” (which still exists in English, you can check ). “Educe” means “to reveal, to develop.” The development of mental abilities cannot in any way bypass learning to think, and in particular approaches to new areas and unfamiliar tasks.

Subsequently, I was not too lazy to find the interpretation of the word school = “school”. The very word “school” in English used to mean simply “a school of fish,” that is, the school was a gathering place for children, where they were herded.

Modern translations of the verb “to school” copied today from Google Translate:

curb, discipline, accustom, school, reprimand, teach, send to school, etc.

Only in the penultimate place is “give education”, before “gather in shoals”.

Where do legs come from?

While digging around all this, I came across interesting, but not very famous, details of Western history. Education for the children of the rich has existed for a long time, but “general education,” at least in England, was introduced during the development of the industrial revolution, and with a very specific purpose: the British Empire, due to the spread of territory and industry, created an acute shortage of competent officials , administrators, clerks, office workers, etc. Therefore, the early versions of “general education” were designed precisely to create a new class of officials - literate people (I emphasize - not self-aware, educated, independent people, but an army of “doers” with clerical skills). The system coped with this task, and is coping quite successfully.

Since then, many voices have been saying that general education needs to move from the dead end of training performers, that society lacks people with imagination, entrepreneurs, pioneers who know how to set and achieve goals. Fritz's book is the result of many years of experience in identifying those very thinking, active, creative creators - both among already disappointed young hearts and from the ranks of almost desperate older wanderers.

Start your own “engine”

We are all familiar with people whose own “motor” is clearly turned on, and with others whose engine is coughing, idle, or even so atrophied that it seems that it is rusted, or is missing altogether. And it’s so easy to assume that some people are simply equipped with a motor from birth, while others, well, alas, are less fortunate from God/genetics.

But I couldn’t come to terms with the idea that my son simply “wasn’t given the opportunity” to become the author of his own endeavors, to lead an active life, to choose his own path. My son, meanwhile, was a compelling illustration of the problem Fritz described. To the question “What do you want?” he couldn't answer. At all. On one side of the page there is a long list of what he wants to avoid, and on the other side, reserved for the list of his desires, there is empty space.

By his actions, his choice of activities, he only emphasized the deficit. Without threats, not under pressure, left to his own urges, he sat down on the sofa, turned on the screen, and switched off. It was still impossible to see a person in the full sense of the word here. "And what do you want?" - "Don't know."

What tormented me in this picture was not only that the trajectory of further under-development was easy to calculate. I was also gnawed by the realization that I didn’t have a method at hand on how to turn on its motor, that I was at a loss as to how to pump up this muscle myself. And that’s why I read Fritz’s reflections and experience in a “can’t put it down” mode.

Fritz, a composer by training, at some point became interested in the parallel of the creative process of the so-called “creative professions” - painting, music, etc. – and the creative process in any other endeavors. Let's say how scientific discoveries happen, how an engineer makes plans for a suspension bridge that no one has ever built before. In short, how pioneers of any genre behave.

According to Fritz, all creative endeavors begin with a task for which you do not already have a ready-made tool or technique. It's like the world of school in reverse. Here we have a task, and formulas/theorems that have already been proven by someone, etc. - No. This is where you need to brainstorm! This is where the motor wakes up!

And here is the second new perspective: Fritz believes that the ability to understand what you want is not an automatic, reflexive function, but rather an ability, a skill that can develop or atrophy. And developing a task from general dreams, nurturing it to more specific outlines, right down to drawing up a plan ready for implementation, is cooler aerobatics.

How do you know what you want? Is it possible to develop this skill on purpose? Fritz suggests this test of wish list candidates: “If it were possible, would you take it?” (If you could have it, would you take it?)

Did the casket open that easily?

I try it on: a vision of my son, burning with projects - I would take it and tear it off with my hands! Test.

So, did the casket really open that easily? There is a wedge that often comes into play even at this early stage: our ideas about what is possible. To prevent the motor from knocking down, you need to be able, at least temporarily, to deviate from the calculations of what you consider “feasible”. The interesting thing is that the question of feasibility does not cancel your wishes.

My dream is to see my son purposefully moving towards his own goal - these are empty fictions, this does not happen in sad “real” life. You can immediately put an end to such “empty” dreams. Line after line of Fritz's retellings of conversations with people on this topic ran before my eyes, and I had to admit that I myself was accustomed to suffocating my thoughts with stories that dreams come true only in fairy tales. Then what is the point of insisting that my son work out his plans in life if I am quickly ready to preserve mine under the sauce “unrealistic”.

Another observation from Fritz made a strong impression on me: it doesn’t really matter what the first idea is, it doesn’t need to be from the theme of a “bright future” and the prosperity of all peoples. Let this be the purchase of your first leather jacket. Belief in one’s strengths and the skills to successfully create the desired result, in his experience, open up the possibilities for the following ideas. From “I want to buy a leather jacket” to “I want to graduate from school with good grades”, or “I want to establish more harmonious relationships in my family”, or “I want to go to the university of my choice because they teach the subject that interests me better”, or “ I want to organize a group of video blog filming” happens naturally. After all, if you can create fun and good things, then you can create more fun and wider things.

To convey everything precious from Fritz’s book is a task beyond the scope of this article. I will only say that the further stages of the creation process (well, creation) are described by Fritz with unexpected hints and help, honed over years of questions and difficulties of living people.

Back to the future

Since my first meeting with Fritz’s book, my son has turned a couple of years old. His “muscles” for daring ideas are developing little by little. In mathematics, the problem from the “didn’t pass” topic still baffles him. Although he is less challenging my flirtations on the topic “What if you approach a problem from school as if it were your own? If we assume that teachers help you, and you yourself are the helmsman of your education?”

And there are more specific changes:

For more than a year now, he has been earning extra money for his pocket money by performing in circus arts.
Since last summer, I joined a drama club, where I made a bunch of new friends, who, at the suggestion of my son, set up a channel on YouTube, where they exhibit short films of their own production
Last March my son gave a short lecture on psychology at a local TEDx conference.

If only you could show this list to me, who dreamed of the impossible!

She would have to work hard to believe in her future: a lecture at a conference, performances on stage, new friends. The role of an adviser and mentor, and not only to the son. A role whose reward is to share the pride of the successes of friends and girlfriends, whose eyes so recently filled with tears of hopelessness.

Don't wait for change anymore

I'll end with a song again. “We are waiting for changes” by Viktor Tsoi was heard throughout the country when my family was getting ready to go abroad.

And I have been waiting for changes for many years since then. The title of Robert Fritz's book is about how both water and life tend to flow along established, or established, channels - and how to create new channels. About how you can not wait for a new education system, but fill in its gaps as needed, about how you can take on tasks for which ready-made solutions may not yet exist. Maybe even about how, if you use your imagination, you can fly in space almost on spoons and a rope, which is not described in any textbook - but why tell the Russians about this, we ourselves are capable of making up inventions.